by Benita Silver | Oct 28, 2021 | Healing, Self-Actualization
I’m noticing a shift. It’s getting colder and the days are shorter as darkness descends. I watch the yellow leaves. Gusts of wind lifting them off branches, they dance and flutter to the ground. It feels like Autumn and it’s almost upon us, also...
by Benita Silver | Oct 21, 2021 | Acceptance, Relationships, Self-Actualization
One day, I had three clients, all of whom began dating. They each spoke of finding themselves entranced within the realm of fantasy regarding potential partners. They loved the excitement, hope, dreams, even sexual stimulation. And why not? With fantasy, there’s...
by Benita Silver | Oct 13, 2021 | Internal Family Systems, Parts Therapy, Therapy
Do you find yourself torn by contradictory feelings which immobilize you with indecisiveness? Maybe you work hard and pride yourself on bringing home a nice paycheck, yet hate your job. Your internal dialogue may sound something like, “Well I gotta work and I earn a...
by Benita Silver | Oct 8, 2021 | Acceptance, Self-doubt
I grew up with a father who prided himself on always getting a bargain. He’d purchase his clothing at Kmart, and always on sale. When the family went apple picking, he’d hide apples in the glove box and every nook and cranny in our Volkswagon Squareback....
by Benita Silver | Sep 10, 2021 | Anxiety
On September 13th, I’ll be interviewed on Close Up Radio with Doug Llewelyn. Here’s a bit about what we have planned for the show: Anxiety ranked as the #1 global mental health concern in 2017 and the numbers are skyrocketing with all the unknowns...
by Benita Silver | Aug 26, 2021 | Self-Compassion, Stress Reduction
Having been borne from a mother who did it all, it makes sense that I, as the eldest, and a girl, followed in her footsteps. So when I got married, on top of all the duties of hearth and home, I worked full-time and was the primary breadwinner. I opened a day program...
by Benita Silver | Aug 17, 2021 | Self-Actualization
I’d like to introduce you to the updated face of FearlessHealers (FH) which reflects my process of coming out from the shadows and presenting myself to the world. I invite you to do the same. For over 38 years, I’ve served folks as a psychotherapist and an...
by Benita Silver | Aug 5, 2021 | Overwhelm, Parts Therapy, Stress Reduction
The other day, a client bemoaned her “Block” which triggered, within her, a slew of reactions: frustration, “poor thing!”, the desire to push, set goals and be held accountable, to deny it, destroy it. All of this culminated in her feeling even more stuck...
by Benita Silver | Jul 30, 2021 | Acceptance, Intuition, Positive Mindset
I just arrived home from visiting my son, daughter-in-law and baby granddaughter. Each time I visit, I shift gears into “be-ing mode.” It’s nearly impossible to tear my eyes away from Reese; I find her so engaging and delightful that I spend hours enraptured,...
by Benita Silver | Jul 8, 2021 | Counter-Transference, Parts Therapy, Positive Mindset
Things got a bit sticky with a client this past week. As is customary, I turn my phone’s ringer off during session. He had texted me at the 25 minute mark. I hadn’t seen it. He called and I happened to think of him at that moment and picked up. He wanted...
