The other day, a client bemoaned her “Block” which triggered, within her, a slew of reactions: frustration, “poor thing!”, the desire to push, set goals and be held accountable, to deny it, destroy it. All of this culminated in her feeling even more stuck than ever.
What a beautiful example of who we are and how we’re composed. We are complex creatures who hold simultaneous multiple and often contradictory feelings. (And no, that doesn’t mean that we have Dissociative Identity Disorder – ie: Multiple Personality Disorder!)
Let me normalize this for ya’ll. You go out for ice cream and one part of you wants to indulge and have two scoops, Chocolate Fudge Chunk and Moosetracks (yummy!) while the other part of you advises a kiddie cone of sherbet (watch that weight!) Yep, apparently opposing positions, though both invested in your well-being.
So back to my client. She was able to spend time and approach her parts with presence, allowed them to be themselves and express themselves and she ultimately gained understanding about them all and felt a loosening of “The Block”.
As a side note, why did her Block block? Because it saw how exhausted she was with all her attempts to break through and it just wanted to provide her with respite. As soon as it ‘fessed up that it too was wiped from trying to maintain itself in the face of so much conflict… then… ping! Clarity, resonance, calmness, and get this, energy, focus and direction! She was unblocked.
And this is where power resides… within oneself.
When we understand and acknowledge the different aspects of ourselves we begin to honor the all of who and what we are. And in so doing, comes healing and transmutation.
